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Terry Foote (Terry Foote)

Terry Foote (Terry Foote)

 From Laurie Foote, Terry Foote’s wife:

 For anyone interested, my daughter posted this today about her father. It's perfect, true, and real. A wonderful tribute to a man who lived life on his own terms, and far better than anything I could have written

 

 My dad passed away yesterday, on the eve of his 75th birthday.

 All I can say is that I am who I am because of him. Everyone deserves to experience the intensity of pure love and devotion that he gave me my entire life. It is nothing short of a blessing to be loved and treasured like that - to get to be someone's world. He would die for me in a heartbeat, kill for me, and he certainly lived for me.

 He was the bravest, strongest, fiercest person I've ever met.

 He was alarmingly brilliant.

 He battled injustice wherever he saw it with with abandon.

 He was completely mad. He had given up entirely on conforming to demands of the world, caring about appearances. He scorned that nonsense.

 He was difficult and troubled. His time in Vietnam, his time in the Special Forces afterwards, and his pre-existing neuro Atypicality made a "normal" life impossible for him, and made life - for him and for mom and I - often deeply painful. As often as it was joyful.

 I learned about extremes coexisting, about the fundamental instability of the human being, and that underneath it all - at the core - there is a foundation of unchanging, endless love that keeps us.

 He tried and valued trying. He had an energy and force of will that few to none dealing with what he did could hope to have. Even on his deathbed, he continually struggled to sit up, and said "We'll do better tomorrow." He had faith in that. He quoted Maya Angelou: "When we know better, we do better."

 He believed in progress, change, justice, and fighting for all of it with everything you have. He believed in giving 'em hell.

 He always had plans for the future that were delusional, but he believed he would and could do them, and that belief kept his fire lit.

 Every time he saw a stray animal, he tried to rescue it, and ended up saving many dogs and cats. He even took wounded birds in to the vet. When a local shelter was closing and would have to euthanize many kitties, he adopted about 9 of them. He loved animals, and lord knows - he LOVED his kitties. Get him started talking about them, and settle in for a few hours.

 A couple years ago (we're talking when he's 72 and having mobility issues) he got in numerous altercations around Hendersonville, accosting people who parked in handicapped spots but had no sticker. Because they were taking spots from those who needed them, and it was wrong. He was a vigilante like that.

 He was passionately interested in current events and learning. He listened to the BBC religiously and always wanted to discuss the affairs in the world. He never lost interest in learning more, in understanding how the world worked, in dishing out theories of how to fix this mess and implement justice. He was hungry for history. On his deathbed, I read some of the most recent book he assigned me - "Thomas Jefferson and the Tripoli Pirates." He told the nurse, "Because I'm interested!"

 We couldn't have left things on better terms. We knew how we felt about each other. We enjoyed each others company; we had the best conversations. My only regret is the usual one: that I had gotten to see him just a few more times.

 The last time I saw him and he was fairly lucid and feeling okay, he was so happy to see me that he sang when I came in the room. He beamed at me with a look in his eyes I'll never forget.

 "All's well with him;

 no fear for a man that's been struck down

 in his duty to captain and owner.



 
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02/03/20 10:37 AM #1    

Terrell Embrey "Terry" Robinson (Terrell "Terry" E. Robinson)

I stayed in contact with Terry for most of his years. He will be missed. Terry never really recovered from his time in Vietnam. His daughter was the subject that made him the happiest.


02/03/20 01:25 PM #2    

Lyle Roddey Edwards, II (Roddey Edwards, Ii)

So sad to hear of Terry's passing.  What a character!  I have so many fond memories of him.  We became best buds in Miss Petry's 3rd grade at Central School.  Many times we walked to the Webb Theatre after school to see the matinee movie for 9 cents!  In High School, we had many adventures.  If it was ill advised, unauthorized, after hours or otherwise just a bad idea, Terry was always in.  He drove the getaway car both times in the theft of the Victory Bells of Myres Park and Garinger High School from Memorial Stadium in Charlotte.  He was full of himself at an early age.  I'm proud to consider him one of my best friends during our school days.  Where ever he is now, everyone knows he's there!


02/03/20 07:25 PM #3    

Rebecca Dawsey (Mrs. Robert W. Johnson)

What a beautiful and inspiring tribute to your father.  Thank you for sharing.  I remembed him in high school in many ways you described.  How precious a person he was.  Becky Johnson


02/03/20 08:28 PM #4    

Carolyn Alene Broome (Mrs. Mike Sosebee)

Thank you for sharing this letter!  My thoughts and prayers are with this family in this great loss!
Carolyn Sosebee


02/03/20 09:22 PM #5    

Carolyn Alene Broome (Mrs. Mike Sosebee)

My husband, Michael Sosebee, was also in the Army Special Forces!  We were wondering what branch of service was Terry in, In Special Forces, and if it was the Army Special Forces, what group was Terry In?
Also what year did Terry go in and how long did he stay in?

Thanks for sharing this information with us!  Carolyn & Mike Sosebee


02/04/20 01:51 PM #6    

Gwen Pheagin (Holtsclaw)

Thank you for sharing this beautiful and loving tribute to Terry.  Even though I moved from Gastonia in my ninth grade year, I never forgot Terry Foote.  We were friends and I thought Terry was brilliant with a funny, sarcastic twist that was his trademark.  I saw Terry once more when I was in college visiting friends in Charlotte and he was refreshingly the same guy I had remembered.  Thank you for a glimpse through loving eyes at the life my childhood friend had.  I wish you comfort in the memories.


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