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Where is every body?

Created on: 12/30/10 07:43 PM Views: 4274 Replies: 4
Where is every body?
Posted Thursday, December 30, 2010 02:43 PM

As far as I can tell, I am the only person who has entered anything in the user forums. Perhaps my classmates are not very computer literate or something like that, perhaps no one really wants to communicate.

After all, high school was a really long time ago, we've all changed some, chances are.

It's a shame though, since this is a way to recommunicate, and a fairly safe way. Those boring guys and gals, and the threatening uber-adolescents, and the always-on-the-make tricky ones, they too have all changed, and if they haven't gotten any better, at least they are all the way at the end of an electronic pipe. Easy to ignore if need be, and very likely much improved. We have too in common our age. We're all withing a year or two of each other, and still alive. Unlike my best friend and my lover, who are both dust now. As we will be soon, no doubt.

We can give it another try, in a small way. Better to press the flesh, in Nixon's phrase, but it is a big commitment to attend the reunion. We can respond to the digital noodling in the forums, or the live chats, and so on.

Worth a try, don't you think?

Xian Yeagan (was Bill Anderson)

RE: Where is every body?
Posted Thursday, December 30, 2010 06:24 PM

That's what happens when you change your name and move to California. 

John Monteith

RE: Where is every body?
Posted Friday, December 31, 2010 06:25 PM

It's been worth it, all in all, but really I was complaining that there didn't seem to be any forum postings at all, not just in relation to mine. Or maybe I don't know how to look for them?

It is never too late to change your name and move to California. All of us are between 65 and 68, and some makeovers are not uncalled-for. I was a big-city dweller until I was 50, and the change to rural life was great! I expected trouble and didn't find it. Now my biggest problem is looking after my neighbor's goats while they are visiting family, and that is not problem at all.

So go ahead and change your name, location, hair color and shoe style. Do it now, before you are in a nursing home, where it is very much harder to do.

I see that there have been ten clicks on this forum posting, but only John Monteith responded. Well, my blathering isn't that interesting anyway, but why not start a new thread?

I think all of us are interested in what is in the heads of our classmates, just as we were fifty years ago. It is part of the definition of who we are, and we are much freer (I should hope) to look at the group experience and thought now.


RE: Where is every body?
Posted Sunday, January 9, 2011 09:32 PM

Sorry I didn't respond sooner. What with the Christmas period and preparing for a holiday in London and thereabouts, time slipped by unnoticed. It has a tendency to do that these days.

I think part of the problem you cited is simply that we've all gone through several lives since last we stood together. Hopefully we are not the creatures we were in 1961. So in a way, for most of us, I suppose, we are strangers to eachother. And we are hardly the Facebook generation. I suspect we tend to be guarded online. Understandably and perhaps wisely. I'm having a hell of a time simply retaining the same font throughout this message. While I haven't gone through all of the profiles at the site, they seem to read more like barebones obituaries than attempts to communicate anything of value. Believe me, I've written or edited many obits over time. We are flesh-and-blood creatures, but you wouldn't know it from the information provided. We are also more than the jobs, careers, work we engaged in over the decades. And we are more than our families, precious as they might be.

It would be nice, now that we're all headed in the same direction (ashes to ashes), to share a bit of what we've learned and the experiences (glorious, horrible, mediocre) we've lived through.

Hey, if anybody hasn't been to London yet, do yourself a favor and go. It's history. It's pagentry and tradition. It's pubs that were the haunts of great writers. It's museums galore. It's classical music venues in abundance. It's beautiful buildings and neighborhoods you've seen in a hundred films. It's a chance to see Broadway shows before they reach Broadway. If you'd like some advice about a visit, just ask. I've been there a bunch of times and I do it on a tight budget. Love it. I'll be there from the 18th to the 29th. My first piece of advice, by the way, would be to give Buckingham Palace and the Tower of London a wide berth.

Okay, I'll shut up now.





John Monteith

RE: Where is every body?
Posted Thursday, February 24, 2011 01:20 PM

Was just cruising the web site and as I am a curious person, jumped right in.  I think the place I would most love to visit is Norway.  My moms family started there and I have never been even tho I lived in Germany several times, the kids were young, husband very busy in the Army and tight finances.  Now I have the money and the time, but no one to go with.  Hubby doesn't travel and my sisters live in different states.  But I have made up my mind to get there somehow before I'm way to old.

You are right John that we are all different people now than we were in high school.  If we weren't what a waste of time it would have been.  A couple of years ago, I got together some people I had hung around with in my youth.  It was fun to see them, we laughed as we remembered things we had done and people we used to know.  Funny, tho, we all looked a little like we did as teenagers.

I have such good memories of Longfellow, Ben Franklin and Teaneck High.  But I am glad that I have moved on, people, places and experiences are what life is all about, and I have done my share of it all.