Ashok K Patel
This is from one of us. Please respond
Hi Ashok,
You have been the most prolific in writing mails and also in motivating others guys to attend the reunion. The analogy of the reunion and the first kiss is also well stated, but hey, I wish to express my views on a couple of things. We probably never met in school as I am from xxxx batch, but I take the liberty of some plain speak which is only possible with a genuine well wisher.
Mandating a dress code for a couple of ceremonies, and that too a suit does not seem proper. Many of us including yourself maybe residing in Europe / USA where a suit is the de facto formal wear except for guys like Steve Jobs who was always seen with his trademark turtle neck and jeans whatever the occasion may be. Well, we guys are no Steve Jobs but I presume all of us have our idiosyncrasies. One never knows but there might be a few amongst us who have ventured into some creative field, social work, etc. where it is a norm to find people donning khadi churidar kurtas. Over a period of time this has become their dress code & they don't wear anything else but this. Or probably guys who have self imposed a dress code for themselves.
It is also possible that some of us refuse to subscribe to the concept of wearing a tie. You will meet several people here who call a tie a noose around the neck and take it as a sign of colonialism. I agree that the world is flat, etc., etc. and a guy in Vadodara does not dress differently from a guy in NY, but these are widely prevalent views.
I hope you agree with me that a reunion of old friends is only about refreshing and cherishing those memories and also accepting each other the way we presently are. No pretense, no superficialities, no vanities.
Imposing codes and conditions will only deter some from being a part of the reunion, unless of course it meant to be an exclusive affair the way the British used to have "whites only" clubs.
Warm Regards
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