A shame to hear about Ray...  Please let us know about any funeral arrangements.

You know I remember laughing alot when Ray was around.  I just can't remember any specifics.  Would it be appropriate for us to tell some old funny stories about him?  I think he would appreciate us remembering him that way?

I think it would be totally ok for everyone to share their memories of Ray here.  Michelle (his wife) can then get on and see how important he was to everyone.