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I volunteer now, raise my two girls (Bilogical father Jim Gorski (deceased 11/24/08)), and want to thank everyone for their support during Jim and my mothers death (8/6/09). The girls are both honor roll students the entire year and play violin in the tucson strings choir. We are still in contact with Jim's sister, our beloved Aunt Pat and his mother as well. It was very hard on the girls with having to deal with the deaths. Due to the girls decisions and a medical condition we missed all the funerals plus the reunion. Nico and I have kept up on classmates and facebook with all the goings' on's. The girls are still trying to recover from not getting their Fathers effects after his death as well. There are no words to explain this to the girls. It is a decision made by a family member that we do not have contact with. I am still requesting this through his mother. We will see what happens. It is difficult, after the divorce and then Jim and I reconnecting for the childrens sake to explain everything. Jim and I believe his behavior change that caused our divorce was probably the result of the tumors that were in his brain. He had them in his lungs, spine and heart as well. Jim would come and stay with Nico and I during his battle with cancer so as to get the girls thru it together. Jim and I stayed up alot of nights going thru pictures, talking about our past and marraige, and crying alot. It was so unfair. He and I discussed what his wishes for the girls would be and wrote down his "words of wisdom" for the girls as their milestones pass. It made a big difference in the way the girls healed. They learned what forgiveness and compassion is. At the end the love that we all had for eachother will remain forever in our hearts and is something that no one can take away or dim. He promised (as did my mother) to watch over us and he has never missed a holiday or special event for the girls. I always have something special that he requested prior to his death that we buy and give to the them just from him. They cherish this and always kiss his picture at night before bedtime. We also stay focused on the future as well. My husband deployed 1/1/10 and we are so excited when we hear from him. We are much stronger as a family and the unwavering support from my family as well as Uncle Mike & Aunt Jen (Bernstein) and Emma & G'pa B (Bernstein) and our military families as well are what keep us loved and centered. If there was any cards or well wishes that were to the girls but given to Jim's family, the girls have not received them. Hopefully this will put any rumors to rest as far as what people might have heard. The girls still want to plan a memorial themselves and I will post it on here when they are ready. Right now, without even his ashes (they are the heirs), they wish to grieve privately with his ashes before having to face large groups of people. Nico and I totally respect their wishes and when the time comes that they get them and finish the process of grief privately we will fly out to MI to have a service. That's what Jim wanted and that's what we'll do. It has been great getting in touch with everyone and we look forward to the next reunion. Blessings, The Gorski/Luna Clan: Nico, Valerie, Alana and Marisa
