| 11/03/08 06:54 AM |
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Deana Sampson (Jenkins)
Hey Brenda,
I remember a little about you posting having issues with your sister-in-law awhile back...is this the same person you mentioned as weighing in on the subject about your daughter and medical things? Her size, nutrition etc?
Not that my advice will be different, but I was just curious.
I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself with anyone, let alone family. But what I learned is still the same. In your heart you know what's right. Let it go and give it to god. Leave this woman to her own life inventory. We can't fix other people, or change them by arguing, discussing. We can only change us and hope that we lead by example. Resentment, in any form, will hurt you most. Your husband is affected by it as well. He supports you, otherwise he wouldn't be there, you know what I mean? Be better than that situation, and you will see what people are truly made of. If you have to not do Thanksgiving, then don't. But lay a better option out there for hubby. Don't give him the reason "Your sister is this this and this, just tell him, I don't want to engage in anything with anyone that will cause static on a holdiay. I don't want to be upset, and I don't want to put you in the middle. So form a cirlce around your own table of happiness, smiles and love. Someday you will get to a place inside where being in the same room with someone that wants to thrive on negativity and drama will not affect you. Once you let it go, rise above and move on, the situation will either resolve itself or show her for who she is. But you my dear will remain whole and unbreakable. If you have the strenght and composure to be there, I say go to dinner. Don't let what other people do make you decide what you are going to do. Your life isn't in your control anymore, you are then living it at the whim of others. I say walk in with your head up, smile on and that forcefield around you that lets her know quietly you are there for your family, love and good memories. Take that same fuel you have inside that responds to her negativity and radiate so much happiness and glow on Thanksgiving that it blinds her. You will find that once you just let all the crap in life like this go, let it go and give it to god, karma, your higher power (whatever your faith) that you will be without all that misery, stress and drama. Then, you will also see the beauty in how that affects the people around you such as your husband and children.
I think you can handle it. Have Thanksgiving with family. Don't let others control your life with their negative forces.
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