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10/03/20 10:32 AM #58    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

Hey Susan, Gwen, Nancy, Judy, and Bonnie:  Great to see your responses to our little stories; thanks a bunch for your generous comments.  We have a few more written up and will probably post some of them here in the forum in the days ahead.

Meanwhile, it's great fun and pride-engendering for us to read your own smart and insightful takes on your lives: your current achievements, struggles, joys and sorrows, and reflections on the impactful days we all shared growing up.  

Stay tuned! (as will we) while staying  healthy. 

Gary

 


10/03/20 10:34 AM #59    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

And you too, Linda Bailey (Ogden)!


10/03/20 06:01 PM #60    

 

Karen Marchant (Derbidge)

Gordon, your story of our 6th grade dance leaves me wondering...
What girls were on the dance list that you deserted that last day of school at Liberty Elementary?
Also, did you ever admit to your Mother what you did?

I have another question for both Gordon & Gary: I'm curious if you remember spending time at my home under my Mother's care when we were probably preschool age?

Karen Marchant Derbidge

10/04/20 09:15 AM #61    

 

Gordon Shepherd

Hi Karen! Great to hear from you. Sadly, I don’t recall which Liberty Elementary girls Miss Jenson penciled in on my dance card, and I don’t recall spending time as a preschooler under your mother’s care. BUT, I do remember your mother very well—who was a legend of neighborliness and efficiency—and also your older brothers Roger and Byron and your younger brother Dwight. I remember your birthday party when we were in the 7th grade at your bungalow brick home with its wide porch at 415 Williams Ave., a block west of Liberty Park. And perhaps most of all, I remember sitting behind you in Miss Anderson’s music class at Liberty elementary and, while listening to you sing,  realizing for the first time that you had the voice of an angel. Warmest best wishes ~ Gordon

P.S. For better or worse, Gary and I never told our mother about my going AWOL from the 6th grade graduation dance and . . . well, there were a few other misadventures growing up that we didn’t tell her about either. 😊


10/04/20 07:06 PM #62    

 

Karen Marchant (Derbidge)

Thanks for your nice comments about my Mother and myself. Mama was very wise and spent her life helping others, even though she had a large family of 15 children....she was amazing.

I'm grateful to my Mother's dedication for the 7th grade birthday party. She had to call me at my friends to get my help with the meal and preparations. Judy Haycock and I were busy calling friends to bring out enough boys to come. So your appearance was greatly appreciated.

10/05/20 09:17 AM #63    

 

Judy Granger (Bell)

I have really enjoyed reading about your lives. Thank you so much for sharing. Wow 15 children, how blessed are you.  Your mother had to have been an angel. I would love to have known her and lived in your neighborhood.  I did live for a while just west of liberty Park when I attended Lincoln.  This conversation has been very entertaining.


10/05/20 10:43 AM #64    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

With advance apologies to the young women of our youth, whose own narrative experiences of what mattered most to them about growing up in the 1950s and early 60s tend to be underacknowledged or even misconstrued in our biased reminiscences, we submit the following piece as another tribute to Salt Lake City’s public school educators who played key roles in shaping our civic values.

 

ARE YOU IN OUR DREAMS?

Role Model Apparitions From our Youth

 

By Gordon and Gary Shepherd

 

 

Sometimes we tell people about our dreams, especially our wives Faye and Lauren, who counterclaim that they rarely dream, or if they do, they can’t remember them, or if they can remember them, they weren’t very clear or detailed. When we were kids growing up, before getting out of bed in the morning, we would query one another: “What did you dream about last night?” And then we proceeded to take turns narrating what we had dreamed about. So, if you’re going to remember what you dreamed, maybe you have to get in the practice of telling your dreams.

            Some people keep a record of their dreams by writing them down for their analysts to interpret. We do no such thing. And, by the way, neither of our dreams are religious, either. They’re not visions or revelations from God. They’re not instructions to other people about how to live or what to believe. Whatever their crazy narratives might entail, almost always our dreams are populated with various family members or friends, both old and new (especially including old friends and significant adults, like omnipresent apparitions, from our childhood and youth).

            The point is, the people we  dream about are the people, both living and dead, who have meant the most to us, or they’re people who in some way, for better or worse, have had an enduring influence on our lives. So, if you’re in our dreams, you’re somebody who is important to us, and, from our egocentric points of view, that’s what ‘s important to understand. Often we both dream about being in Mexico again, and in those dreams we can still speak fluent Spanish. But more often, we dream about being back in school—the schools of our childhood and youth.

            Do we ever dream about our old teachers, you ask? Yes, sometimes, but strangely enough, not that often, given the important role that many of them played in our lives—especially the dedicated women teachers whom we still remember with fondness and appreciation at Liberty Elementary (whose administrative and instructional staff did not include a single male): Teachers like Mrs. Madron, Blunt, Poulson, Lawrence, Murphy, McDermaid, Anderson, Taylor, and Jensen, among others. To an unsung degree, these women helped impetuously energetic and curious boys like us acquire a basic sense of fairness and responsibility toward others in a socializing context of learning how to read, write, do arithmetic, and learn about history and other countries in the public school system. God bless our underpaid, women public school teachers. Saying this in perfect sincerity about the many women teachers we admired, we must also admit that the teachers from our youth who are most likely to make appearances in our dreams today are men, two in particular: Hal Hardcastle and Dean Papadakis. Hardcastle and Papadakis were the boys’ P. E. teachers at Lincoln Junior High.

            When it came to directing adolescent boys—capturing their attention, channeling their underdeveloped potential and inchoate aspirations, while simultaneously imposing elementary discipline on their behavior—it wasn’t the school principal (whose name we can barely remember—Richards, maybe?), or any of the academic faculty: It was Hardcastle and Papadakis.

Hardcastle and Papadakis. Their names went together. They were a tag-team, complementing and supplementing each another in organizing and running Lincoln’s elaborate boys’ P.E. program. Their authority and oversight of the school’s young men were unquestioned. And, to the extent that the predictably intemperate behavior of teenage boys between the ages of thirteen and fifteen can be disruptive of institutional order, it may be said, practically speaking, that Hardcastle and Papadakis virtually ran the school. 

            Is that an overstatement? Undoubtedly it is. But we want to emphasize the critical role played by Hardcastle and Papadakis in nurturing a budding sense of educational community and therefore increasing awareness of civil norms of mutual respect and reciprocity among their adolescent male charges. In doing this, they became our most important adult role models at Lincoln Junior High.

            Salt Lake City Junior high schools in the 1950s did not, as a rule, sponsor competitive athletic programs with other schools. For that, one had to wait for high school. Instead, there were intramural sports that pitted different gym classes in competition against one another throughout the school year. At Lincoln there were traditional team sports (flag football, basketball, and track and field events). But in between these there were numerous other competitions as well, including wrestling, the sit-up contest, the rope climbing contest, the free-throw shooting contest, the weightlifting contest, and the softball throwing contest. Not only were individual winners recognized in these events for their achievements, but points were allocated to different gym classes over the year to determine which class was the overall grade-level champion. And, of great motivational importance to aspiring boy athletes, school records were kept, updated, and posted yearly.

            We both disliked wrestling (sweaty, smelly, exhausting, and we always hated getting pinned by huskier kids), so we’ll skip past that to highlight some of the school’s other individual sports.       The sit-up contest, for instance, was pretty basic: How many sit-ups could you do in twenty minutes?  As 7th graders, we recall the school record was over 500. The next year, Dennis Madsen, a slight, wiry kid, obliterated the old record by doing over 1,000. We remember watching him for twenty minutes in mesmerized amazement as he popped up and down like a well-oiled metronome. In the 9th grade, Gordon tried competing in the sit-up contest as the rep from his gym class, and painfully squeezed out approximately 500—not enough that year, sad to say, for even an honorable mention.

            The rope-climbing contest was a timed event to see how fast you could scale a fifty-foot rope from the gym floor to a beam in the ceiling. We had been given instruction on the proper techniques for climbing, which involved coordinating “foot wraps” with one’s arms systematically hoisting one’s body, hand over hand, to the top of the rope. A good climb would take less than ten seconds. Johnny Grego, a handsome, broad-shouldered Mexican American kid, disregarded the foot-wrap part of the technique and simply scrambled up the rope by pulling himself with agility and sheer upper body strength to set a new school record of a little over five seconds. (We only mention that he was handsome because all the girls seemed to be cheering for him to win.)

            Free-throw shooting was a test of consistent basketball shooting accuracy: How many free-throws could you shoot in a row without missing? If we remember right, the record before our 9th grade year was somewhere in the low twenties. Alan Owens, a quiet kid better known for his math and slide-rule skills, proceeded to swish fifty in a row. Fifty. We kid you not.

            In weightlifting, our neighborhood hero was Larry Swanger. Swanger was one of those kids who matured early and inherited big biceps from his gregarious, blue collar dad. To most of us, Larry Swanger looked like Sampson. He was tall, ruggedly handsome, and girls liked his 1950s Elvis-style hairdo. In the finals he was opposed by . . . by . . . well, hell, we can’t remember the other kid’s name (he didn’t continue on with us to high school). In any event, he was squat, had a crewcut and short, thick arms. Unlike Swanger, you couldn’t see his muscles. Neither of us recalls how many standing, overhead presses it took, but eventually Swanger couldn’t lift anymore but the squat kid kept going. He won and set a new school record! Our champion Swanger had gone down to gallant defeat. But such was life, we were beginning to learn. 

            Finally, in the softball throw, a contestant would stand behind a line at one end of the playing field, run forward a few steps for momentum, and heave the ball as far as he could. In our 8th grade year the school record was shattered by Dennis Borup, the 9th grade student body president. Borup, like Larry Swanger, had matured early and was a head taller than everyone else. When he threw the ball, it hit the side of the auditorium that stood twenty yards past the end of the field. Thereafter, we suppose, a new record would have to be measured by how far up the auditorium wall the ball hit. 

            Well, as we said, these (and others) were the individualized sports and the corollary prospects they offered for individuals to set new school records; they were a big part of the socializing allure of sports competition for sports-addled boys at Lincoln Junior High. The big team sports in the intramural program—flag ball and basketball—were seasonal sports that bestowed bragging rights and class points to the accumulating totals, but for which no statistical records were kept. Arguably, however, the biggest sports event at Lincoln was the annual track and field meet, again pitting different gym classes against each other in the late spring, toward the end of the school year. For this track meet, all classes were dismissed, and the entire student body became an audience to what transpired. (Yes, in the long decades of public-schooleducation prior to Title IX, girls were expected—if not required—to attend and support boy’s sporting events, and many did so with what appeared to be more interest in the boys themselves than whatever it was they were doing on the gym court or athletic field). And because track and field events feature individual contests that can be quantified by measures of time and distance, school records were also made and broken, and the results posted for subsequent student cohorts to admiringly contemplate on the walls of Hal Hardcastle’s and Dean Papadakis’ gym offices.

            Which brings us back to reflect on the dynamic duo of Hardcastle and Papadakis and what they meant to most of the boys at Lincoln Junior High. We’re perfectly confident that every Salt Lake City junior high school in those days had intramural programs similar to Lincoln’s. But in blissful ethnocentrism, we’re also confident in asserting that no other school’s intramural programs were managed as effectively and inspirationally as they were at Lincoln by Hardcastle and Papadakis. If you think we’re wrong, prove it.

            Both men, of course, were athletes themselves, so that was good. They had somewhat contrasting personalities, but that was also good because, as we already said, they complemented and supplemented each other. Hardcastle was a little more intense; Papadakis was a little more relaxed. Most importantly, they were respectful friends who agreed on how best to co-manage the many sports programs that involved every boy at all three grade levels at Lincoln Junior High. They were like conscientious parents who presented a united front to their kids. And what they were united on was what was most important for the kids they taught: honest effort, fair play, and mutual respect for your classmates, regardless of their presumed natural abilities in sports.

            Hardcastle was ruddy, blonde, crewcut, broad shouldered and thick-chested. He was a football player who threw the hammer at the University of Utah (an ancient, esoteric field event still included in the Olympic Games) that requires agility, speed, and significant upper body strength. Papadakis—an exemplary specimen of Salt Lake’s Greek community—was a couple ofinches taller than Hardcastle, with dark hair combed in a modest pompadour, an easy smile, and Mediterranean features. Papadakis was a basketball player with a deft, lefthanded shot. He was also an artist, who applied his skill to the production of first-rate posters and charts to promote and record the sporting events of Lincoln’s unparalleled intramural programs. 

            But, as adult role models for boys, it wasn’t just sports that they were good at. We looked up to Hardcastle and Papadakis for guidance, and they didn’t disappoint. One of the other activities we were exposed to in our junior high gym classes was a week of learning how to dance with girls from the girls’ gym class that met the same period we did. When we say dance, we mean old fashioned ballroom dancing. The jitterbug, bop, and later the twist and other popular dance styles, presumably were dance moves that kids would pick up on their own. In retrospect, the main thing about our gym class get-togethers with girls was not so much to teach us how to dance the minuet, but how to act properly around girls. We can remember both Hardcastle and Papadakis lecturing us ahead of time to mind our manners and also reminding us that they would be chaperoning the dances. Even though both men had a good sense of humor and were well aware of the smart-aleckyness and arrogance of some of the boys under their charge, the bashfulness of others, and the immaturity of almost all of us at that age, they insisted that we be respectful to the girls at school.

            We remember one occasion in particular. An African American girl was a new student at Lincoln and, Hardcastle informed us, she would be dancing with the boys in our class like everyone else. There would be no refusing, no eye-rolling, no smirky quips or comments. We would be friendly, politely take our turns, and we would damn well like it. We respected that then, and we still do.

            On another vividly remembered occasion, a fairly large group of kids showed up on the steps of the school at lunch time for a fight (some of them were Lincoln students, some of them were not). A dozen fist fights and brawling quickly erupted. For a moment it looked like all hell was breaking loose. But suddenly, Hardcastle and Papadakis came flying out of the building—not the school principal or anybody from the administrative office. When someone ran into the school for help, to report what was going on outside, they went straight to the gym offices of Hardcastle and Papadakis. The insurgent fighting was over in a matter of seconds. Hardcastle and Papadakis each grabbed two brawling kids apiece, knocked their heads together, and angrily ordered everybody off the steps. The sizable crowd that had formed because of the fight quickly dispersed. Nobody else at Lincoln could have done that. No other adult authority on the school premises could have acted so quickly and so effectively to snuff out a potentially dangerous moment of harm to the school and its students. No other adults on campus would have been obeyed with such alacrity by a pack of overheated juvenile boys. We respected that then, and we  still do.

            Hardcastle and Papadakis. Two adult role models from our youth, who continue to inhabit our dreams at night. Are you too in our dreams? Feel free to ask us some time.

 

 


10/05/20 07:51 PM #65    

 

Susan Hemmingsen (Marchant)

Hi everyone,

Just lost what I was typing....do not know what in the double-toothpicks I hit, but sometimes computers make me want to scream.   Butt....I will not be deterred and start over I will. 

I began by saying that without much alacrity (which I needed to look up)  or helpful dreams, I will attempt to share a few memories of my junior high years from fine, amazing and top IRVING JUNIOR HIGH, a rival of Lincoln Junior (you of course, notice the capitalization differintation).  

Girls gym, once I got to compare it to a peek at the boys gym, needed an UPGRADE.  Where was all the equipment that lined their walls?.....especially those ropes which hung from the ceiling?  Don't know why those ropes stuck in my jealous mind but they did.  What did we get to do?   Well, there was the endless exercises which seemed to happen frequently, basketball, baseball (outside of course), and more of the endless exercises.  I know that others out there might be able to assist my memory, but until we got a TRAMPOLINE, yes, the girls gymnastics program actually got a tranpoline!, this is what our program consisted of and it was certainly lacking in my eyes.  

What a moment it was when this dream arrived in our gym!!!  and did the boys get one?  well, this I did not know and seriously, did I even care?  Because "We" got one!  Our teacher spent endless time with instructions so  we would not kill ourselves or someone else.  Endless time that seemed to go on forever.  I could not wait to give this thing a try (I had no prior experience). I was scared ----- that I would be the one to do something wrong, get injured, and end the appearance of this exciting new adventure,  This mana from heaven that looked like so much fun.  I climbed on with baited breath as I am sure a lot of other fellow female Irvingites did.

I did it!  I successfully had my turn without ending this magic flying magic.  What a feeling it was.  I loved it!  And, I got to do it more than once.  How long we actually had this flying machine in our gym I cannot tell you.   All I can say is that it was way too short when one day we turned up to find it had been moved, taken away.  Someone broke the rules and was injured was the rumor I heard.  I really never knew for sure.

But now I was stuck with those boring, same-old exercises and basketball at which I sucked and baseball at which I also sucked.  I mean most all the other girls had played lots of LDS Church basketball and baseball and possessed a lot more skill than you know who.  I hated to be in that position.

Well, maybe there will be a miracle and we will soon walk into our bare gym and find hanging ropes.

Yeah, right. 

Oh well, a girl can dream, can't she?

  
 


10/06/20 07:31 AM #66    

 

Gordon Shepherd

Bravo, Susan! Great piece on the flying machine in the IRVING girls gym, lack of helpful dreams notwithstanding (but with plenty of alacrity). 😊


10/06/20 08:46 AM #67    

 

Linda Bailey (Ogden)

I also remember the trampoline because I ended up with whiplash. Even today when there are aches, they are in my shoulders and neck. I have never been on one since. Also, a lot of physical activities meant one had to have pretty good vision, which I didn't. Even with corrective glasses, my eyesight was unclear. It wasn't until I got contact lenses (senior in high school) that I discovered when looking at trees you could actually see individual leaves. I had great near vision, which probably lead to me preferring books over any sports. I dream about South High and the ramps quite a bit. They get steeper and more difficult in my dreams.


10/06/20 10:46 AM #68    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

Loved both your (Susan) and your (Linda) stories.  Keep'em coming.  I enjoy getting new insights into people and their formative pasts.   We all thought we knew our old friends, but it turns out, mostly,  not so much.  Same is true, of course, with many of our subsequent friends and even loved ones.  We need to inquire of others more, listen to them more, and attend to them more. Never too late.


10/07/20 02:05 PM #69    

 

Susan Hemmingsen (Marchant)

Don't sit there on your derriere, do something!

Does this ring a bell for any of you Irvingites?  I liked the teacher who touted these words more than once in our direction, because my gut-feeling, inspite of her bravado, was that she liked us monsters and felt that we had "places to go and people to see," and even though we got under her skin sometimes, were worth her time and use of a sophisticated French word.  I grew up in a home where words amounted to "not many" and teachers fulfilled this lack of communication.  I hung on their words even when I did not know for sure what they meant (derriere=French for backside), especially when these words carried a caring tone.  She, I knew, would know when we did not attend or when we were not prepared.  She was a teacher who did indeed care and I would like to thank her for this however many eons it is late in being voiced.

I don'tr recall her name, but there she was in front of us greeting us with a smile (usually), but so often with these words.......Don't sit there on your derriere, do something!  Maybe some of the inticement is that I knew that she was using a word that, in English, was not used in a classroom, or, was in that she made us feel that we were grownup enough to handle and share in this secret she was placing on our heads?

Whatever it was.....I liked her class and the feeling she gave me.  

Another teacher who made me feel that I had something worthwhile to share and give the world was Armont Willardsen in A'capella choir at South High.  Now, I knew that my voice and my training in music were mighty low on the totem pole, but hey, I made the choir and I was beyond estatic!  Could I live up to this honor? or would I end up out on my ear?  Always he was a character that demanded perfection but the accolades that followed our performances made me know for certain that people found our performances top-notch.  It was a grand feeliing to be part of something like this.  He believed in us! and he would not settle for less than what he knew we were capable of.  Thank you Armont!

At South, there was another teacher who stands out in my mind.  Another one who I sound out a loud and long Thank You to.  This person, who I will not name, caught up with me when I was hurrying away from a situation in which I felt I had humiliated myself, came up to my side and said, "Susan, I wish I had a daughter just like you."  He will never know how much those few kind words meant to me.  I had not really ever had a Dad in my life nor even words of praise from a too-busy-single-Mom.  His few words carried me forward.

Teachers.  Wonderful teachers in our life who cared.  Who were paid far less than what they gave.  I owe them a lot and I offer them my thanks and gratitude. 

 

  


10/08/20 08:01 AM #70    

 

Gordon Shepherd

Aside from family members and close friends, few other people have had more influence on our lives than our dedicated public school teachers. Thanks, Susan, for your tribute.


10/09/20 01:26 PM #71    

 

Gwen Aupperle (Koehler)

I was born in SLC in 1944 as my dad was posted at Ft. Douglas with the Army/Air Force and he played in the band.  Mom worked in a local bank.  After dad was discharged we moved to Minnesota where my mom was from and dad entered U of M to get his masters in music teaching.  We lived there until I completed 8th grade in Fairmont, Mn., a small farming community south of Minneapolis.  All this is to seque into the fact that in 7th and 8th  grade I was on a trampoline team, Susan!  I even lettered in the sport which entailed executing several maneuvers on the tramp including jumping with a partner and not landing on the surface at the same time as you would launch the other person into space.  I earned  a big, red letter "F" but don't think I ever sported it on a letter sweater!

We moved back to SLC just before I started 9th grade as dad had secured a job teaching music at Irving Jr. High.  We rented a house in south Salt Lake, west of South State St.---"the other side of the tracks" as I learned later!   I went to school at Central Jr. High in Granite district but we moved the summer before I started high school which put us in South High District.  Shortly after starting school there I was often asked if it was my dad who taught at Irving as some of the kids had had him as a teacher.  Having the unusual name of "Aupperle" was a give-away.  The next question was, "Isn't he the teacher who rode his bike to school?"  That was also unusual for the time!  Dad rode his bike into his late 90s and only gave it up when I insisted.  He had called me to ask if I would mend a hole in the knee of his jeans.  When asked how that happened he had to confess he fell off his bike----only ended up with a skinned knee and bloodied fingers from putting the chain back on so he could get home.  Dad lived to be 101.  Guess all that bike riding paid off and he had never broken a bone!

I walked to South and back home to Emerson Ave. several times with Mercy Johnson, Linda Booth and Lynne Madron.  We would sometimes stop at a little corner store and get penny candy for the walk home.

Sitting on one of our front lawns we would talk the afternoon away and forge our friendship by sharing all the things teenagers must process to get through the changes life was bringing our way.  Lynne's mom was the teacher I think Gordon and Gary talked of in one of their messages. Lynne and I attended and graduated from Westminster College with teaching degrees. Lynne and I have kept in touch all these years and met in SLC to attend the 50th reunion together.  When my husaband and I were backpacking in England Lynne and her British husband picked us up and gave us a respite from the trail at their historic, thatched roof cottage where they lived part of the year.

South High was a beautiful building; wide hallways, those great ramps, an auditorium (a rare thing in schools today), hardwood floors, wooden desks and artistic tile. I often wished, as an elementary teacher that we had an auditorium for the kids to go to for programs.  It would have been a lot easier to teach good performance behaviors if the kids had been in seats arranged on a sloaping floor instead of sitting on a gym floor where they could not see what was going on without a lot of squirming! 

 So, to all my fellow cubs who are sharing the memories we hold in common, I say thanks for triggering thoughts of my life of so long ago.  It was the "best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness-----"  and so the saying goes.


10/10/20 09:27 AM #72    

 

Gordon Shepherd

Gwen, I enjoyed reading your reflections on growing up, your school teacher dad, attending South, and memories of some of your friends whom we all knew and appreciated (Mercy Johnson, Linda Booth, and Lynne Madron). And yes, Lynne’s mother—Mrs. Madron to us—taught first/second grade at Liberty Elementary. Thanks for sharing.

 


10/10/20 07:01 PM #73    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

I ditto Gord's appreciation for the reminisences you posted. It's so interesting to hear about the background stories of the people we knew (but didn't really know) in school. By the way, we didn't know where Lynne Madron lived--apparently over by you guys somewhere between 7th and 11th East, west of 13th South.  But she attended Liberty Elementary School with us, presumably because her mom taught there.  I walked Linda Booth home from South High on more than one occasion, a fairly decent trek of about 15 blocks.  Made a few treks to Mercy's house as well.  

 


10/12/20 02:53 PM #74    

 

Gordon Shepherd

In fond appreciation of old friends who influenced our lives growing up in Salt Lake during the 1950s and early 60s, we offer the following reminiscence of Dave Lingwall and Phillip Starr (not to mention our older brother Don)

MUSICAL ILLITERATES

Getting By With a Little Help From Our Friends

By Gordon and Gary Shepherd

 

Recently we had breakfast with Dave Lingwall at the Cracker Barrell Old Country Store on 3500 South in West Valley, Utah. We hadn’t seen him for decades. Dave’s thick, wavy red hair from boyhood days had faded to silvery grey, but at least he could boast of still having his hair, which we could not. As we downed our breakfasts and got reacquainted, two things became clear: Dave has a very good memory, and he has not lost his quirky, irreverent sense of humor. Naturally we reminisced about old friends and our shared pasts while growing up in central Salt Lake and then talked a little about our current lives. Dave, it turned, out had married Carla, his high school girl friend, had six children, thirty-five grandchildren (whose names he recited to us in perfect alphabetical order), and had worked his entire occupational career for Mountain Bell (later designated as US West). Digesting all of this information, Gary suddenly asked Dave if he still played the clarinet. Without missing a beat, Dave pulled out his phone to display a picture of himself cradling two shiny saxophones; one was a baritone and the other a tenor. Dave explained that nowadays he preferred the saxes, that they were easier for him to play in old age than the clarinet. And yeah, he still took pride in his playing.     

***

            In 1977, our great uncle, Arthur Shepherd, was posthumously awarded the Cleveland Arts Prize for Music. Arthur was a child prodigy who transcended his humble Paris, Idaho family roots at the age of twelve to commence his musical education at the New England Conservatory in Boston. Among other adult achievements later in life, he was awarded the 1905 Paderewski Prize for best American orchestral composition, served as assistant conductor of the Cleveland Symphony Orchestra, was music critic for the Cleveland Plain Dealer, became chair of Case Western Reserve University’s music department, and composed over 100 major musical works, including symphonies, string quartets, and assorted songs and their arrangements. Arthur deserved his kudos.

            Regrettably, however, his Shepherd musical DNA apparently leap-frogged over the two of us. We hasten to add that our mother’s side of the family cannot be blamed for this egregious misfortune. Our mother, Marjorie Coombs, was competent at the piano and had a pleasing alto singing voice. In fact, from an early age, she wanted very much for her boys to learn music. Hence, our brother Don commenced taking violin lessons in elementary school, and the two of us were slated to learn the piano. Mistake One with this plan was that our mother attempted to be our piano teacher. Mistake Two was the fact that we seemingly had little aptitude for the instrument and even less motivation to learn (the latter of these two observations quite possibly setting up a self-fulfilling prophecy for the first). As best we can recall, our lessons lasted less than two weeks of resentfully plunking out beginner tunes, like “Papa Hayden’s Dead and Gone.” For the sake of her own sanity, mom threw in the towel and said she would try again when we got a little older.  (Due to our nearsighted intransigence, however, that never happened.)

            Don continued his violin lessons for the rest of the year, but by then it was increasingly evident that he had genuine art ability. All he wanted to do with his free time was sketch and paint, so his music lessons went out the window too. As for us, we also liked art and were fairly good at drawing, but we conceded that art was Don’s domain. More so than Don, on the other hand, we readily formed close bonds with neighborhood friends, and hanging out with them dominated our boyhood interests. Instead of music or art, eventually we started gravitating towards sports, which became a consuming, adolescent passion, even though we were never exceptionally gifted athletes.

            None of this means that we hated music or didn’t like to sing Christmas carols at church, or songs we learned at school, or hum along or whistle to the popular tunes of the era and tap our feet to a rock’n roll beat. To the contrary. We were just never willing to discipline ourselves long enough to study or learn music fundamentals and, to Arthur Shepherd’s undoubted horror had he known, we consequently grew up musically illiterate.    

            But fortunately, not all of our friends shared our illiteracy. Two of our best friends, in fact, had both ability and cultivated tastes in very different kinds of music. We admired this and forgave both of them for not sharing our passion for sports. Our two musically inclined friends were Phillip Starr and, of course, David Lingwall.

            To us, Phil seemed like a true prodigy. Through various church activities, our parents knew his parents, and we can remember our mother talking about Phil’s blossoming piano skills before we had even started kindergarten. In every grade we passed through at Liberty Elementary, Phil was designated as the teachers’ accompanist whenever we sang or learned new songs in class. He became his LDS ward piano accompanist for hymn singing in Sunday services while still an elementary schooler.  Later, for three years at Lincoln Junior, he was the orchestra’s pianist and the school’s designated accompanist for every musical event or performance. Likewise, at South High, he played piano accompaniment for the acapella choir, all the school musicals, solo vocalists, and for our graduation ceremony. To the untutored likes of us, Phil’s taste in music was undoubtedly classical. Classical pieces, of course, represented the most difficult and challenging music in a serious student’s repertoire, so naturally we assumed those were the pieces that Phil learned and practiced. But popular Broadway show tunes and Sunday worship music were also part of his regular repertoire, and it seemed to us that he could play them flawlessly by sight-reading alone, without having to learn or rehearse them.   

            David Lingwall’s taste in music ran in different directions. Dave took up the clarinet when he tried out for the Lincoln Junior High band and learned to play saxophone too. At South he played both the clarinet and saxophone all three years for the orchestra, pep band, and dance band. David’s music wasn’t just something he did to fill up his class schedule. He cultivated a genuine love for instrumental music, especially American jazz. As illiterates, the two of us were even less familiar with jazz than we were with classical music. But our friendship with Dave Lingwall changed that—a little bit, anyway. By going to Dave’s house and listening to his record collection, we learned the difference between Ragtime, Dixieland, Swing, Bebop, and Cool Jazz to name a few of the variants. Some jazz musicians’ names we were superficially familiar with already through their impact on American movies and pop culture (like Louis Armstrong, Duke Ellington, and Benny Goodman), but there were many others whom we had never heard of (John Coltrane, Charlie Parker, Miles Davis, Thelonious Monk, Dave Brubeck, etc.) until Dave Lingwall exposed us to their music, for which we are forever grateful.

***

            To this day we both regret muffing the chance of learning how to read music and play an instrument. We consider our musical ignorance to represent an embarrassing hole in our educations. Nonetheless, we enjoy listening to a wide range of different types of music—from classical to pop, folk, rock, and jazz and the blues—an appreciation pleasurably augmented by two of our oldest friends while growing up together in Salt Lake City. Frankly, today we even like Bob Dylan’s singing on certain songs (and not just his lyrics). But this, perhaps, is an arcanely acquired musical taste for which Phil and Dave would prefer not to take any credit (and great uncle Arthur would disown us for sure). We’ll have to ask Dave about it the next time we meet for breakfast. When you’re illiterate, you try to get by with a little help from your friends.


10/13/20 09:53 AM #75    

 

Linda Bailey (Ogden)

Delightful reminisence. Gordon, I always admired your wit and writing. I am a bit envious of strong bond the two of you share. My brothers were older and I never had that sibling bond. At this point in life, especially, I would love that connection. Luckily I have established some friendships that provide a bond. But never the bond of a shared childhood. Thank you for sharing your childhood stories.


10/14/20 10:23 AM #76    

 

Judy Morris (Morgan)

I really wasn't going to post.     I don't like to post.   Oh well.    This stroll through memory lane has had me thinking for days about my own childhood.   Then last night I woke up, as I often do, with a song in my head, as I often have, that looped, and looped.  But I could only remember two phrases.   That didn't matter, it kept on and on ............"You've got a brand new pair of roller skates.  I've got a brand new key."      Any one else skate?   We did, all the time, all around our neighborhood and for many beyond ours.   Loved those skates.    I, too, lived in a "blighted" area, but loved it.   I grew up on the corner of Roosevelt and McClelland, just west of 11th east.   I went to Emerson Elementary.   Linda Booth, Fred Richeda, Marsha Leubeck and I went from kindergarten through South together.   We walked everywhere, including most of the time to South.  Linda, Marsha and I went to Irving but I think Fred went to Roosevelt, now that I think of it.  My mom and all of her siblings went to Emerson.   We walked to Liberty Park for tennis, or Municipal Park for ball games, to play or to watch, sugarhouse for fun or mostly for the library.   I loved that weekly trip to that wonderful library.   I drove through that neighborhood a couple of years ago. Those homes are so much smaller than they used to be, and the streets way narrower.   Lots of us on those two blocks.  We, all ages and genders together, roamed the area until long after dark all summer and all the adults new us and looked out for us. Kick the can, Hide and seek, rubber guns......  My brother (5 years older) and I sat together on the lawn at Bear Lake a few summers ago and went through every family in every house on those two blocks, Rooselvelt to 11th east and McClelland frin Emerson to 13th South.   We remember each name, even the older couples without kids.  (My brother and I have always been like twins and still very close.   We survived the war together and though 5 years apart and several states, still think the same thoughts and call each other just as the other was going to pick up the phone.  I cherish that.)    I was born in Cheyenne on the army base.  At six weeks we moved to San Bernardino base.   Mom, my brother and I lived up the mountains in Crestline.   Dad snowshowed the last two miles in one weekend with groceries, and then shoveled 2 feet of snow off the roof so it wouldn't cave, as some had done.   Next spring he moved us into that house down the street from grandma and then spent the next two years in Europe.   Two more kids and mom and dad wanted to move.   Two bedrooms and one bath.   Dad had improvised a bedroom for my brother from the kitchen nook and he was by then at South and we refused to move - we all wanted to go to South!!   Eventually dad fixed up the coal room (rememer those) for me and I slept there.  They stayed there till we were all married with kids.     South High School, what a big impression on my life.   I loved choirs and Armont Willardson.   His love of music and the impressions he made are still with me.   And  Moroni Scwab comes to mind every time I stop at a cross walk, with just the right amount of space between me and the stripes, or when I turn from right lane into right or left into left, which is a lost art now days.    So many wonderful teachers and so many amazing students!    And I loved Mr. Backman.  I know he knew every student by name but it always surprised me when he stopped me to talk or ask about my brother etc.  Our lives were shapped by loving hands in a beautiful and warm atmosphere.    My dad went to West High.   During a debate he argued that the city should build another high school and call it South.   I'm so very glad someone was listening.


10/14/20 11:11 AM #77    

 

Karen Demke (Hansen)

I have so enjoyed reading everyone's memories of our time at South High, and for some of us, also time at Lincoln Jr. High.  Gordon and Gary's memories of Hal Hardcastle and Dean Papadakis made me smile because they were so spot on.  No only did these two coaches teach their young men to respect girls, they had a way of letting the girls know that was what we deserved.  I remember my very first dance lesson in gym class.  My first partner was Mike Ellis who seemed a giant of a young man to me, but he held me lightly and we danced very caefully.  I always liked Mike after that for having the ability to turn my uncertainty into a sense of ease, and I enjoyed his big smile and pleasant way all through school.

Coaches Hardcastle and Papadakis also knew everything that was happening in the social lives of all the students-- who liked who, and who no longer did.  I don't know if they were just very observant, or if locker room talk added to their store of information.  I was an office aide for one of my classes in the ninth grade so that meant I got to hand deliver messages from the office to the teachers.  One spring day I made the long walk from the office out to the field to deliver a note to one of the coaches.  They were always together and as I handed the note to one of them, Coach Hardcastle asked me why a boy whose name I can't even remember no longer liked me.  I have no idea where my answer came from, but I said, "I guess he doesn't recognize a good deal when he sees one."  They both broke out laughing and I returned to the building embarrassed I had said that.  They were just always so nice to everyone that when I would run into them after that, they never made me feel uncomfortable.

All this reminscing made me go back to our Lincoln Jr. High yearbooks and look up friends as we were then.  Imagine my surprise when in one of the autograph sections I found a message from Dean Papadakis.  He wrote, "To the best deal in the school.  Much happiness and success.  "Papa:"'  Now there was a man who knew how to make a person feel special.  Thanks for the memories.

 


10/15/20 05:25 PM #78    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

Great memories, Judy and Karen.  I love all the details and the background stuff.  Judy, even though we didn't get really well acquainted at South, we should have.  We certainly overlapped with a number of the geographical areas and activities you highlighted and with some of the friends you mentioned (Linda Booth, Fred Richeda).  And Karen, I think I remember you telling me  a few years later about what you said to Hardcastle and Papadakis and what Papadakis wrote in your Lincoln "yearbook."  And I think I remember myself thinking, "Man, old [what's his name -- Alvin Ebert ?) really did mess up on a good deal."    I'm really glad you and others (e.g., Susan H., Gwen A., Nancy P., Linda B., Judy G., Karen M.)  are starting to share some of your stories and hope that even more will be inspired to do so as well.


10/16/20 10:11 AM #79    

 

Gary Shepherd (Shepherd)

P.S. Karen:  That is a tender and revelatory story about Mike Ellis.  Thanks for sharing that.  

 


10/17/20 02:51 PM #80    

 

Gwen Aupperle (Koehler)

To all those who remember roller skating with those metal skates that hooked onto your shoes and needed the key (loved the reference to the song about this);  do you also remember the skinned/scabby knees and palms of the hands with gravel imbeded?  Many years ago when I would go for a run before heading to my teaching job, I tripped on uneven sidewalk and did the down on the knees with hands stretched out slide.  Got lots of sympathy from my 3rd graders when they saw the bandaids!!  Now it is unnerving to think about falling, knowing that damages might be a tad more problematic.

Just a shout-out to everyone, be sure to VOTE and don't trip on the waysurprise.   wink

P.S.  I remember a teacher that we had for science at South.  Mr. Harwood set me on a path to always seek  scientific exploration and explanations,  to marvel at amimal behavior and to welcome learning about new discoveries and to love being out in the wilderness.  Yes, I also learned from my family members who took me camping and hiking but as a teenager I think all good things can be enchanced by those teachers you have that teach more than just the facts and pass on their love of learning.


10/18/20 09:13 AM #81    

 

Linda Bailey (Ogden)

I loved the freedom I felt with roller skating, moving fast and easily along. Often when I dream of flying (love those) I am flying just above the ground and the feeling is much like roller skating. Camping was my favorite kind of vacation. I loved the smells from the pines, breakfast (bacon and coffee in the mountains are some of the best smells on earth), the fire and the sounds. I still like it. I also learned not to fear "bugs" and I am grateful for that as I garden.


10/18/20 02:34 PM #82    

 

Gwen Aupperle (Koehler)

Hi Linda,  I, too, have had flying dreams----what a rush!  I have had (in my dreams) the ability to push off from any surface and fly away.  Did you ever read the kid's novel, "The Fledgling" by Jane Langton  about a little girl who learns to fly with a Canadian Goose as her teacher.   Don't know if it is still in print but library might have it.   Another one is "No Flying in the House" by Betty Brock. Think you might enjoy them even though they are children's books.  I continue to love children's lit.  They are a needed escape from the times we find ourselves in!  I used to read these two to my second and third graders and to my son.

All the camping experiences I had are never to be forgotten and those smells all have happy memories. Bacon just tastes different when it is cooked outside!  I remember traveling to Yellowstone and Teton Natl. Parks to camp.  Since my dad grew up close to those places we went there often to visit relatives and camp with them----no reservations needed and the campsites were big, not the packing of the public into small spots like now!   Dad would roll down the car windows as we drove into the park and say, " AHHHH, smell those pines."   I still have some of his ashes that must be taken to Yellowstone sometime because a bit of him needs to be where he worked many summers as a young man and where he met my mom who had traveled by train from Minnesota to work there for a summer.  I wish I'd known,my mom then.  It took a tremendous amount of courage on her part to leave Minneapolis and travel farther than she had ever gone to do that. as a young woman on her own.  I did not see much of that spirit of adventure in her when I was old enough to notice those things!   


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