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12/31/25 08:39 AM #541    

Edward Torchy Smith

For a few hours Web Young was listed  as "In Memory." That was a MISTAKE on my part.  It is Byron Webster not Web Young.                     


12/31/25 04:13 PM #542    

 

Bennett Tramer

Byron was a terrific guy, always enjoyed seeing him, very sad news.  His son's post is powerful.


01/05/26 12:53 PM #543    

Edward Torchy Smith

Obituary
Jan 5, 2025
Beloved wife of 47 years to Bruce E. Blackman; dear mother of Jordan E. (Kristen) Blackman and Spencer S. (Lina) Blackman; devoted grandmother of Gregory, Anna and Slade; siblings sister Laura (Michael) Mintz, brother Ted (Roberta) Kulber and the late Deborah Kulber; niece Rachel Kulber and nephew Matthew (Tanya) Kulber. Born in Cleveland, OH, Sarah moved to Buffalo soon after graduating from Case Western Reserve University. Married to Bruce in 1978, she worked for several local companies like Litelab, the Albright Knox Gallery shop and the Olmsted Center for Sight while raising her two sons. Sarah was a passionate appreciator of the arts, Francophile and a creator of iconic jewelry. She also thrived on activities like writing, dancing, discussing poetry and serving as a docent at several local art galleries. Her friends and family valued her warmth, thoughtfulness and emotional connectivity. A memorial service will be held at 11am on Sunday, January 12, 2025 at the Mary Seton Room of Kleinhans Music Hall in Buffalo, NY. To view Memorial service, please click on link www.hdezwebcast.com/show/in-loving-memory-of-sarah-blackman. Reception to follow. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to CEPA's arts education program at https://www.cepagallery.org/product/donate.


from Ronna Burger:
I never quite absorbed the change from “Sally” to her chosen name “Sarah,” though it was more fitting for her deeply thoughtful character. We somehow combined seriousness and playfulness in so many high school experiences, trying to understand together our lives and our world. Fred Berger remembers reading Yevtushenko’s poetry together, and he sent this recollection for Sarah’s memorial service: “I think I know where Sarah's love of the French language began. In the 10th grade Sarah, Ronna Burger and I sat together in Miss Politella's French class. We loved the class but were very silly together at times. The "punishment" for acting out was to sing a song in front of the class. "Sous Le Ciel de Paris " is etched in my brain forever. We were all so, so lucky to know her. We will never forget her.”

 

( I AM NOT SURE WHO WROTE THIS TO ME.  Will that person pleae ID him or her self. Torchy )


01/06/26 12:44 PM #544    

 

Ronna Burger

Hi Torchy.

Sorry, that message came from me, Ronna Burger,

with great appreciation for all the work you do to keep us connected, remembering our beginnings!


01/06/26 12:49 PM #545    

 

Ronna Burger

I'm afraid the sad news about Sarah Blackman was sent on the 1-year anniversary after losing her. The date on the "In Memory" page should be 2025.   RB


02/24/26 07:27 AM #546    

Edward Torchy Smith

https://www.austinnaturalfunerals.com/obituaries/lynn-shapiro/#!/TributeWall

 

Lynn Marcus Shapirio ( Deceased)


03/15/26 12:08 PM #547    

Edward Torchy Smith

https://obits.cleveland.com/us/obituaries/cleveland/name/charlene-usalis-obituary?id=60949599

 

Above obit for Charlene Dinardo, Usalis


05/08/26 06:31 PM #548    

 

Paul Sawicki

 

They call us "the elderly."
It is a quiet, polite word, and it hides what we actually are.
We are the last living witnesses of a world that no longer exists.
Look at us and you might see the gray hair, the slower steps, the patience that only time teaches. But if you stop and listen to our stories, you will realize something extraordinary. We are not simply older people moving through the final chapters of life. We are the generation that walked, in a single lifetime, from the slow rhythm of an analog world into the dazzling speed of a digital one — and somehow carried our humanity across the bridge with us.
Many of us were born in the 1940s, 1950s, and early 1960s. The scars of the Second World War were still fresh. Cities were rising again from rubble. Families were learning, slowly, how to hope. Our childhoods unfolded in ways that would be almost unrecognizable to a child today.
Our toys were simple.
We played marbles in dusty yards and hopscotch on cracked sidewalks. We gathered around kitchen tables to play cards while the smell of dinner filled the house. When the streetlights flickered on in the evening, that was the universal signal. Childhood adventures were over. It was time to come home.
There were no smartphones.
There was no streaming.
There was no endless scroll.
We built our memories in the real world. With scraped knees. With laughter echoing down neighborhood streets. With friendships that formed face to face and lasted, in some cases, for sixty years.
Music became one of the defining soundtracks of our youth.
The 1960s and 1970s arrived like a wave of color and rebellion. We watched culture shift around us, carried by electric guitars and voices that dared to question the world. For many of us, gatherings like the Woodstock Festival of 1969 symbolized something larger than the music itself. They symbolized a belief that peace and community could reshape the future.
Hundreds of thousands of young people stood together in muddy fields, listening to artists pour raw emotion through towering stacks of speakers. Those concerts were not just entertainment. They were moments when strangers felt, for a few hours, like a single generation singing the same hope under an open sky.
Our education was different too.
Our notebooks were filled with handwritten notes carefully copied from chalkboards. Research required patience, libraries, and stacks of heavy books. Information did not arrive instantly. We learned to slow down and think things through, because we had no choice.
Mistakes were corrected with erasers and ink.
Not with the click of a "delete" button.
Love also moved at a different pace.
We fell in love while vinyl records spun on turntables and cassette tapes clicked softly inside plastic players. Music became the background to first dances, to long quiet conversations, to dreams about the future. Those relationships grew into marriages, into families, into lives built one slow step at a time through the 1980s and 1990s — the decades when the world began, almost imperceptibly at first, to change shape underneath us.
We are the only generation in human history who experienced an entirely analog childhood and a fully digital adulthood.
We remember waiting weeks for a handwritten letter to arrive in the mail. We remember rotary telephones and party lines, where neighbors could accidentally overhear conversations. Communication required patience. It required anticipation.
Today we can see the face of a grandchild on the other side of the ocean instantly, on a screen small enough to fit in a pocket.
The world changed in ways that no one could have imagined.
We watched humanity land on the Moon in July 1969, sitting in living rooms staring at televisions, many of them in black and white, as Neil Armstrong took the first human steps on another world. We watched the rise of the personal computer. We watched the birth of the internet. We watched the arrival of smartphones that placed entire libraries of human knowledge into the palms of our hands.
Machines that once filled entire rooms now exist on devices lighter than a paperback book.
We moved from punch cards to artificial intelligence.
And through every shift, we adapted.
We grew up in the shadow of polio and tuberculosis, illnesses that once terrified entire communities before vaccines and antibiotics finally pushed them back. We lived through pandemics, including the recent silence of COVID-19, which reminded the world that resilience is still required of every generation.
Few generations in history have witnessed sweeping change at this scale.
And yet, despite everything that evolved around us, certain things remain.
We still understand the joy of a cold glass of lemonade on a hot afternoon.
We still remember the taste of vegetables picked straight from a garden.
We still know the value of a long conversation that unfolds slowly, without a keyboard or a screen interrupting it.
We have celebrated births and mourned losses. We have watched friends depart and carried their stories forward. Those of us still here share something rare. We are standing at the crossroads of history, holding memories from a world that younger generations know only through photographs and stories.
We are not relics.
We are living bridges.
Our perspective reminds the modern world of something it is in danger of forgetting. Progress does not have to erase wisdom. Speed does not have to replace patience. The future does not have to forget the past.
So when someone calls us "elderly," we can smile.
Because behind that word is something extraordinary.
We are the generation that crossed two centuries, witnessed eight decades of transformation, and walked from the age of handwritten letters to the era of artificial intelligence.
What a life we have lived.
What a story we still carry.
And if you belong to this generation, take a moment today and recognize what you are.
You are not simply growing older.
You are living history.

05/09/26 12:05 PM #549    

 

Barbara Horovitz (Brown)

A few years ago, my husband and I were kayaking and capsizied ib a ruver in fast water and ad to be rescued. The news referred to us as a resourceful elderly couple.  I had not thought of myself as elderly, but it seemed like a compliment.  I  guess as we appoach 80, we should wear the label proudly. We have defined many decades before and may we continue to do so. 


05/09/26 12:42 PM #550    

Donna Beran (Steadman)

Thank you, Paul, for this thoughtful retrospective! Hopefully, we "elders" can use our collective wisdom and belief in a better world to help bridge the widening gap between our own countrymen and nations around the globe.


05/09/26 05:15 PM #551    

 

Dennis Bayer

Paul

      Very well  said! The world is a very different place today and I'm not sure that place is a better one. Your message makes us think back through all the years and all the changes we have lived through. Young people  have no idea what  life was like in the good old days. 

Thanks for posting that beautiful message,

Dennis


05/10/26 12:20 PM #552    

 

Cookie Chesler (O'Neill)

Ditto what Dennis posted.  Thank you Paul. It is so good to be reminded of what we all shared and the feelings that so many of us have.  


05/10/26 04:28 PM #553    

Sande Gerth (Chernett)

What a great and thoughtful essay. I had foot surgery two summers ago and when I pulled my surgical notes, it referred to me as " an elderly female", it took me aback but then I realized that the medical world categorized me that way. 
  We all have fond memories from our Shaker days and the seemingly idyllic place where we lived. I even married a Shaker guy which allows us to reminece together about what it was like when we were young. 
  Neither of us feel "elderly " as we head to the gym each morning before the sun rises. I know the world may see us that way but I'd like to think that we still have much to offer to the world and should continue to use our voices. 
Sande


05/11/26 10:11 AM #554    

 

Jeffrey Pollock (Pollock)

I was moved by Paul's beautiful essay.  I try to keep that positive spirit every day.  My wife and I are spending our 55th anniversary this summer with efforts to be better listeners and  to marvel at the changes we have lived through that Paul so eloquently described.


05/11/26 02:17 PM #555    

Judith Helf (Fishman)

I have been thinking a lot about and talking about Shaker growing up and how wonderful our childhood was. I can't believe that in another eight months I will be turning eighty. I laugh at that number because I'm not the 80 of my grandparents even though they were very young. I will not let this number define me as elderly as dress Most often in jeans and tennis shoes and am extremely active in many activities in the community that I live in Florida. I have started my life long  passion of singing  at a restaurant with an incredible jazz piano player once a week.  I could go on and on, but this is really about what Paul said and I'm just reflecting. What a great composition that is And if I'm called elderly, so be it. I'm just gonna continue on dancing and singing and enjoying life. Thank you so much.


05/11/26 06:04 PM #556    

 

Alice Kuhn (Hansen)

Thank you, Paul, for this wonderful message.  With your permission, I will pass it along to some family and friends who will also find it meaningful.

Alice


05/12/26 03:11 PM #557    

 

Barbara Horovitz (Brown)

I thought I had posted this earlier in resonse to Paul's message, but appartently not. Four or five years ago, my husband and I were kayaking on a local river with fast water, and both capsized and had to be rescued. We were described on the news that night, as a  resourceful elderly couple. I had never thought of myself that way before, but as we approach 80, it's probably a fair assessment. Just came back from a 15 mile bike ride with my Old Spolks biking group. I was snorkeling with my husband in St. Martin last month..I am fine with being called whatever adjective for older you want. I am just grateful to be able to continue doing the activities we enjoy. Wishing continued good  health to all my classmates. 


05/13/26 01:14 PM #558    

Stefan Ostrach

Right on, Ron!


05/13/26 02:55 PM #559    

 

Tim Bannon (Bannon)

Let me add my thanks for Paul's thoughtful and evocative summary of the remarkable period through which we acquired our elderly status.

05/13/26 07:15 PM #560    

 

Howard Falcon

Paul,
Thank you for that insightful message, it was truly a work of art. Most of us just move on from day to day and really don't think about all the advancements that occurred during our lives, we are truly a generation of technological advancement unexperienced until the present generation as far as the giant steps taken.

While I may not be around for the next Giant Step, I will surely pass your message on to my grandson to pass on to his kids and to my great nieces and nephews.

Thank you for sharing such insightful thoughts.

Howard Falcon

05/13/26 09:22 PM #561    

Donna Beran (Steadman)

Reply to Rob Shattuck:   By all means, Rob-  go for it!      The "rule of law" is something that we all took for granted while growing up and is now literally under threat by the current Administration.  I hope your organization's campaign is totally successful!


05/14/26 12:23 PM #562    

 

Paul Sawicki

I need to apologize for not correctly representing my posting on the elderly.  I did not create it - it was something I found on X that I thought would resonate with our class.

When I posted it, it did not occur to me that folks would assume I wrote it.  If I had realized that, I would have provided attribution.

I’ll be more careful in the future.


05/14/26 12:33 PM #563    

Larry Terkel

I want to add my thank you to Paul for such a beautiful description of what we have all experienced in this amazing life. I have enjoyed a retirement gig teaching Intro to World Religion at Kent State and it never ceases to amaze me that there is a class called the "Sixties" taught in the History Department. 

I give my class a teaching from the sixties. I tell them we gave you a word. The word is "stoned." It's our word. They can use it but I want them to know where it came from. (I always know what I'm dealing with by which students smile at this teaching.) I tell them it comes from the word "astonished." To be stoned is to be in the state of astonishment. I tell them, you don't need the drugs. Simply cultivate amazement. Live in the wow as much as you can.

Our lives have been amazing on so many levels. If you missed any of it, Paul has reminded us. Thank you Paul.

Larry Terkel. 


05/17/26 07:40 PM #564    

 

Rob Shattuck

Torchy, might you post an explanation about why you felt you needed to delete the message I posted?


05/18/26 10:36 AM #565    

 

Jeffrey Pollock (Pollock)

I read Paul's apology.  The fact that he didn't write it but sourced it from an internet post that none of us had seen was the value.

I still appreciate Paul's seeing it and reposting in on our Shaker web page.  The only thing missing is the name of who wrote the original post.  Thank you Paul for sharing it with us.


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