Some of the most meaningful events or experiences that have occurred in my life since graduating from SCHS include...
Ordination and monastic life, certainly, but I think taking care of a dying relative is an eye-opening, soul-searching experience. One must learn to hold one's tongue, to give without asking anything in return, to do whatever needs doing in love, valuing each moment you have with that person. But the care is given with a breaking heart, knowing that person is going to leave sooner or later. I was blessed, Momma went suddenly, on the Feast of the Epiphany in 2007. She continued teaching me about myself to the end! I will miss her.
I was a monastic in the Fruitvale in Oakland, running a transitional housing program for men. Sadly, the program was put in jeopardy by the "erratic" behavior of my superior. He, and some of his former frineds, eventually made himself so sensational as to involve the courts, make the news and brought the neighborhood into an uproar against him and the housing program. This brought the housing program down altogether.
I still feel badly for the men whose lives were cast into upheaval by the swift demise of the program. Much was done that was underhand and unnscrupulous, but it was long since out of my hands.
It did, however, help me learn that the church is not some physical thing: it is WHO we are, WHAT we are doing, and HOW we interact with the world around us.